Cleaning and Decluttering

20/06/2006 § 13 Comments


To give a little backround so I don’t embarrass myself terribly, my DH and I have been married for 5 months now. I was a single mother for 12 years with a mostly complete household and he was a bachelor with a lot of ‘stuff’ in his own house. So when we married and moved into his house, needless to say, it looked like Target or Wal Mart blew up in my new living room. We have had A LOT of cleaning, sorting, unpacking and throwing away/donating to do. Tim, I mean the guy that works at the Salvation Army, calls for back-up when he sees our car! I’m sure Goodwill has an APB out on us along with warnings to ‘approach vehicle with caution-watch for falling boxes’! We’ve visited a few times to each of these places because one place takes A, B and C but not D and the other place takes D, E AND F, but not E. (me thinks there’s a conspiracy afoot!)  

During the day I homeschool Lovebug and he works full time. My hours switched at work so now I work every Sat-Mon. I am still fairly a newbie to homeschooling so there are still a lot of disciplines I’m learning. (like how to be disciplined) I want to make sure DD gets a good education so I have put a few things on the back burner-like unpacking the rest of our stuff and finding homes for everything and weeding through all the ‘duplicates’ of things my DH and I have. Not to mention all the gifts we got for our wedding! That, and the stuff I/he never took the time to get rid of over the years. So, things have been in kind of ‘move this pile over there so I can sort through it later mode’. This week while Lovebug was gone we did some cleaning. We had kind of been ramping up by starting with the laundry a few days before. (what that really means is that we had enough laundry to do over the course of a few days!)



Asa and I are quite different in a lot of ways. He grew up in a conservative Christian home. Modest home, 4 kids, 1 set of parents, college education…

I grew up on the other side of the tracks. I grew up in a liberal ‘God who?’ home. Decent home, 6 kids, 2 dads-1 mom, never graduated high school (I did get my GED a few years later). He was preppy, I was punk. You get the idea.

In spite of all that, we are soooooo similar. The similarity I want to divulge to you today is: unmotivated. More commonly known as procrastination, it can easily set you up for failure. When procrastination strikes, it rears its ugly head and makes you put things off when you could quite easily do them at that moment. It also affects the laundry.

Now, when I grew up it was never my chore to do the laundry. It was always one of my sisters who did it. I always got stuck with the bathroom, dishes (my first job was as a dishwasher and so were other jobs after that) and sometimes vacuuming. (Remember, family of 8-two boys and 6 girls-ONE bathroom until I was an older teen) I learned to do laundry when I was 19, out of the house and a brand new Christian and mother! I HAD to learn then.

Fast forward to today. If you were to walk into my home there are a few areas you will notice that aren’t very…tidy, shall we say? Yep, you guessed it. The bathroom, the dishes and the laundry! I need help!



Asa and I sat down this week and talked about a way to fix our dilemma. You will never guess what we came up with. We decided Love needs a few ‘official’ chores and I can oversee her accomplishing them. So, we gave her the dishes, sweeping/vacuuming and keeping her bathroom/room clean. Asa then VOLUNTEERED to take care of the bulk of the laundry and get this, he said he doesn’t mind doing it at all and actually likes it! He will also take care of the bulk of household/yard work, his bathroom, office and utility room. The garbage duties will be split w/Lovebug. Of course each one of us has to pitch in and help the others out so we are all doing our part to help out. Now, before you think I won the ‘Homemakers Dream Life’ Sweepstakes or something here’s what I’m in charge of-everything else. The cooking, shopping, overseeing, main floor bathroom, kitchen, dining room, living room, remaining 2 bedrooms(and ours), laundry room, etc…

At least we have a plan.


So, we will try this out for a while and see if it’s successful. Stay tuned…



Traci 🙂


§ 13 Responses to Cleaning and Decluttering

  • HeartnSoul says:

    I love the way you write – it is so intriguing 🙂 What a NICE hubby! to share all those chores. We have a new chore helper here (4 kids) from Its the PEGS system. My friend uses it for herself too so she can see what still needs to be done. My kids like drawing for a privilege if they do not get any penalties for a week.

    I’ve been decluttering here too, for the past year and a half. I sold/ gave away 1/2 our house before moving to CA (no basements) but have reduced even further each week. I’ve been having some fun contests on my blog too for give-aways, that is even more fun 🙂

    take care,
    Denise T

  • Canadagirl says:

    Thank you for stopping by my new friend. (0: How did you find me? I am always courious.I really appreciate you comments , thank you. I hope you come over often. (0:
    I am really needing to revisit, have you heard of her? She really helps with how to declutter in a way that you can really do it. So I will come again and I hope you do the same.
    In Him,

  • drewsfamilytx says:

    Hang in there Traci! It only seems overwhelming right now because you are still in the adjustment/moving/newlywed/newlyhomeschooling phase…that’s a lot of new stuff in your life!

    As you establish a routine, it does get easier. PROMISE!

    My best days begin with the alarm clock (instead of Mommmmy! We’re hungry!) and it helps for me to NOT sit on the couch or turn on the tv. I’ve definitely been a work in progress for many years…and counting!

    Hope you have a fun and tidy week! 🙂


  • Anonymous says:

    Thank you for stopping by my blog! A plan is always a good thing – in my younger days ; ) I thought I could just fly by the seat of my pants and get stuff done. Consequently, nothing got done! My husband and I also split up our home chores. I do everything inside, he does everything outside. Hmmmmm. Maybe I need to re-negotiate. Lovely blog!Edited by jmj403 on 6.20.2006 at 12:56

  • Titus2woman says:

    Just had to say that I love the name Asa! (((((HUGS))))) sandi

  • dawilli says:

    Flylady, flylady, flylady!
    Give the site some serious reading, then give the system a serious try… even if you only adopt a few of her suggestions, it’s a definite improvement, just ask my husband!
    I still need to declutter a lot (you gonna have a garage sale?) but the general tidiness and actually clean bathrooms, oh and done dishes, make such a difference in the tone of our home! (some of what I referred to in the atmosphere of the home post…)

    Anyway, keep at it, lists of chores are good for kids (in my opinion!) and chores done by kids are good for busy moms!!!


  • heartofvirtue says:

    I love this post, Traci! You’re so cute in your writing. I was smiling the whole way through. 🙂 Ahhhh, yes…. The motivation factor is such a biggie!! Unfortunately, most of my chore/clean up motivation comes purely from the idea of: “I want to be absolutely PERFECT in this area, even if it kills me.” Not the best and most wholesome way to approach life around the house! When I’m not thinking that, then I’m like: “I’m so overwhelmed with trying to be perfect — I’m just gonna give up.” :o) Can you see I’m a woman of extremes? *grin* Oh well, I am a work in progress, PTL! I like the way you’ve set up your family chores and I look forward to hearing how it all goes. 🙂


  • momonajourney says:

    Wow, you’ve really been working on your site. It looks so nice! I haven’t been on much lately – obviously, but did post something on my blog just now. Thanks for giving me a nudge! Now, I’ll go back and catch up on some of your posts!

  • momonajourney says:

    I’m guilty of this, too. To second what dawilli said, Flylady does help one to slowly and gradually add routines. That said, I think I need to begin at the beginning with her again. It does help to have routines, though. Things went so much more smoothly when we did Flylady’s Weekly Home Blessing. Hope you come up with a routine that works well for you

  • UndertheSky says:

    Your comment on my blog was so kind, thank you. You were not intruding at all. We were just publicly sharing our feelings! :+)

    You asked about history. I am afraid to say that I don’t know much about Tapestry of Grace except for what you can find here: This was done by a friend of mine.

    I am learning about MOH and find it very solid and a great spine for history. We will be using it for our second “tour” through the ancients. You did not say what time period you are studying so I cannot comment from there as to anything “better” than MOH or ToG. I would love to chat with you about it over email if you would like. is my address.

    I loved this entry of yours for its honesty and tone. Congratulations on your marriage and may it be long and beautiful.


  • frogiggie89 says:

    Procrastinators Unite! Also known as PU, which is the one thing that comes to mind when I think of my room every few months.

    I like your template and especially the font the you use. It’s prettyful and groovy all at the same time. And just for the record, groovy is just about one of the coolest words ever. 😉

    Thanks for stopping by my blog! The Karate Kousins are actually my little sister and cousin. I forgot they had that blog though. Whoops.

  • daybydaygrace says:

    You all will be very pleased with your plan. Even if someone doesn’t get to everything on their list, the most part of the house will be clean. . It’s so much nicer when it only takes about 30 to 45 minutes to pick up the house (if that long), compared to hours. We are enjoying our schedule. Blessings, Traci

  • ServingHim says:

    Hi Traci,

    Thanks for stopping by. I don’t think that the book is still in print. I did a search and couldn’t find one copy of it. If I do find it, I’ll let you know!

    Elaine <

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